Girl on Top: Your Guide to Turning Dating Rules Into Career Success





Nicole Williams, Author of Girl on Top: Your Guide to Turning Dating Rules Into Career Success

What’s the difference between your career and your dating life? According to LinkedIn’s Connection Director, Nicole Williams, not much! In her book, “Girl on Top,” she focuses on explaining how traditional dating tips and techniques work really well in the office. See what you can learn and easily translate from date night to boardroom.

1. Can you give a little background on yourself and how you got into your work with career building?

I needed it! My mom worked in a paint factory throughout her career, and from a very young age I could see that working a job that isn’t true to your potential and that you don’t enjoy actually sucks the life out of you. We spend 70% of our waking life at work, and when you hate your job, you hate your life.

Growing up, I was always inherently interested in what people did as their careers and how they got there for fear of working in the same paint factory (which I did to put myself through university). As I developed my career, I was always looking for the “smart” girl’s guide to career success. I wanted to be connected with women I could learn from and be inspired by.

I figured out pretty quickly that it’s the soft skill stuff that really makes a difference in your career—dating in the office (or at least feigning off advances), protocol around drinks after work, how to position yourself to ask for a raise, how to deal with (and not be) the bitch in the office (…and still get your own way). That’s the business I built. I see WORKS as a lifestyle brand…a place women can learn and connect with each other in a format that’s more entertaining than your typical, sleeper career content.

2. In your book, Girl on Top: Your Guide to Turning Dating Rules Into Career Success, you relate dating skills to job advancement, when did you connect the dots?

Girl on Top was inspired by a gift my girlfriends gave to me after I had left my husband in the hopes of getting me back in the dating game. In the basket of goodies was a pile of dating books and as I flipped through The Rules, He’s Not That Into You -all the classics –I quickly realized these dating rules are actually brilliant career strategies! It’s all about human nature and the same way you don’t want to give away your milk for free on a first date with a man, you don’t want to give your milk (talent) away for free to your employer –in both cases you end up being taken advantage of and disrespected.





Girl on Top: Your Guide to Turning Dating Rules Into Career Success

3. In your book you focus on general career building, what would you highlight for entrepreneurs or those with nontraditional careers like blogging?

The entrepreneurial road isn’t an easy one to travel. From lack of funds to a small client list, new business owners face many challenges. Yet they tackle these obstacles and turn them into opportunities. Rather than moping over problems, they’ll find the silver lining and work hard to find solutions

They carry out the daily tasks to run a business, but they don’t let the small things smother their dream. New business owners think about where they’ll be in the future. Setting five-year and ten-year goals helps them stay focused and ride out the bumps along the way.

They don’t take no for an answer. Entrepreneurs don’t throw in the towel when problems arise. They work through the trouble spots and persist until they reach the level of success they’re satisfied with.

4. You have lots of great tips for bloggers, what would you say are your top 3 tips for any blogger looking to partner with PR companies and their favorite brands?

One of the best pieces of advice that anyone gave me when I was starting a blog was to focus on one area. Few people have the personality to carry off a blog that wanders randomly from political reporting to personal rants to lyrical poetry. Specializing will help you build a community and find your voice as a blogger.

Start following companies on LinkedIn. Have they utilized bloggers in the past to create marketing partnerships? Doing this type of research will help you further target your voice.

Leaving insightful comments on other blogs is one of the easiest ways to boost your traffic. People who enjoy reading one travel blog will probably be curious about others, and this holds true for whatever your area of interest is. Most bloggers include a blogroll (a.k.a. a list of similar blogs) down one side of their site to show goodwill to their fellow bloggers, and this can help you attract readers.

Get social! To prove that your blog is timely make sure to put a link in your LinkedIn profile. Also, include it as one of your current experiences and post a description on your profile. Sync up your status updates with your tweets as well to keep the conversation going.

5. Do you have any tips for someone looking to maintain their current full time job and slowly transition into a position as a freelance blogger?

Getting the conversation going after a long day at work is tough. Thinking of something timely, witty and unique is even tougher. Which is why I rely heavily on reaching out to my network to see what’s interesting to them. I frequently post questions in my LinkedIn groups to see if these women would be interested in a topic I’m considering writing. While writing is cathartic – it won’t do my any good to write about something only I find interesting. I try and engage in knowledgeable, dynamic, authentic conversation.

6. As someone that has a full schedule daily I am wondering what your best tips are for managing a great career, maintaining a social life, and still finding time to date?

I’ve always said that balance is bullshit and now more than ever, I really do believe it. Success requires a sense of priorities and focus, and that has never been clearer to me than with the birth of my baby.

When I’m at work, I focus on my passion for the business and getting the job done so that I can hurry home and spend time with him. The truth is at this point I’m clear about my priority…my son. I still love my work but because I waited until I was 40 to have a child, I want to be able to invest the majority of my energy in my family and dig into spending meaningful time with him. I’m guessing I’ll be living this one out for a while—will keep you posted!

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